Men and women are at an emotional stalemate. We feel something’s lacking in our relationships. The majority of men aren’t able to penetrate their women fully, nor are women fully opening to their men. Women aren’t opening because men aren’t giving them what they need. Women feel disappointed and resentful; they are suffering. When women suffer, and they feel like they aren’t being seen, they close off to their men.
Here are the nine things that all women want in a relationship.
To Feel Safe
There is a war being waged on women’s self-esteem, sexuality, and safety from a very young age. Because of the barrage of disempowering messages being sent to women regarding their sexuality, women need to have a safe space where they feel that they can trust their partners. She wants to trust your strength. She wants to feel like you can handle whatever she shows you.
Honesty – but not too much of it.
A woman doesn’t want a man to lie to her about important matters. She wants to be an important part of his life – the most important part, in fact. She wants to know the things that are going on his life and she wants him to have trust in her. As far as she is concerned, they are one – his life is her life. .
To Feel Sexually Desired
What’s a major difference between your relationship to your partner and your relationship to everyone else in your life? You have sex with your partner. Women need to feel sexually desired. They want to make sure that you see and appreciate them as a feminine, sexual being. Praise her body. Feel her and grab her appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as a sexual being and you will both benefit.
So that she doesn’t feel the need to have to explain herself. She wants you to know her – inside and out. Why? Because only then will you love her for her. We all sometimes need confirmation that we’re worth loving. The realises – not the people others perceive us to be. We may not all need such a confirmation of our value, but we all want it. But it’s more than just that.
she needs to know she matters to you. To be cared for means not to be alone in this life. Most people are forced to care for themselves and the truth is that it’s a lot more difficult than people let on. As human beings, we aren’t always in the right mindset to care for ourselves. To top it off, that’s usually exactly when we need the most caring – when we aren’t mentally or physically capable of doing it ourselves.
Strength – both mental and physical
No woman wants a physical weakling – it’s against her nature. That doesn’t mean she won’t settle for slightly less than Herculean, but you’re a man dammit. She wants to feel that when she’s in your presence. She wants you to be intelligent and to practice self-control simply because you can.
Compassion –shows her you’re capable of loving
A woman doesn’t only want a man to have love only for her, but a love for life, for living things. She wants a kind man, a man whom others will look up to, appreciate and admire. She wants a good man.
To Be Appreciated
The feminine in all people responds primarily to praise and appreciation. Remind your partner that you love her. Tell her that you appreciate what she brings to your life. Show her how much she means to you. The fastest way to run your relationship into the ground is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. Appreciation is the embodying this mindset: “I am aware of what you bring to my life, and I want you to be sure that I am aware of it as well.”
To Be Allowed To Be Nurturing
Just as masculine energy has the need to protect, feminine energy has the desire to nurture. Women want to see the cracks in our armour. They want to see that we trust them enough to open up to them. They want to be able to help us through our sadness. An integrated, evolved man who has a balanced masculine energy as well as his own sliver of feminine would welcome his woman’s nurturing.